Dating a psychologist
Tuesday, January 04, 2011
♥ Tuesday, January 04, 2011
Contrary to popular belief, psychologist-girlfriends really dont play mind games. In fact they really dont play any games at all. Games presupposes a chance of winning. The position of always losing, suffering the consequences of that loss, and not even have so much as a modicum of expectation of winning is affectionately called- "boyfriend". I love losing i guess. It keeps me humble.
And this is absolutely necessary for dating a psychologist. I mean, you can put up all these macho fronts- to beef up that masculinity- and it all comes down with a sound like "pfft" or "pooooffft". It is not even a word. If it was one, you could hide behind the fact that at least there is some rationale behind your injured feelings. So either learn humility before you get together, or you learn it their way. I suggest the former.
And they really have you by the... Sorry lets rephrase. They really have you under their thumbs. When i make either suggestions, propositions or questions that are cheeky and hilarious, she would give this absolutely genuine smile. She would look postured to take up the suggestion and even playfully tag along with "you would like that wouldnt you?" So the anticipation and excitement will build. Just like the stack of cards, placed precariously, one at a time- with the hope that it will finally look like a pyramid.
And just when you thought you have the final card up the pyramid. She'd suddenly revert to the serious. This time you'd see that she was really just being playful and had meant something absolutely opposite. She wouldnt even tell you the rationale. She would just crumple your stack of cards with a dismissively singular word. "No". I cant describe the feeling. "Disappointment" just doesnt sound intense enough..
But just when you would think that such guys could very well be the most miserable persons on earth? Absolutely not. They are the happiest.
For one, psychologist girlfriends are the bomb squad of any potentially awkward and hostile situation. And if you see yourselves in such situations, such a talent is a formidable asset. I think its rude and awkward to have dinner before the host and his family sits at the dining table. I think its worse that i am eating the birthday cake even before the birthday boy. She coolly managed to let me do both of that without either the birthday boy getting angry or the host feeling offended- both of them being the same person in this case. Eloquence mixed with psychology, with a tiny dose of wit, is an excellent concoction for getting away scot-free for almost anything. It would explain the discounts she gets at haagen dazs, the approved proposals at university and her impeccable score at interviews.
More importantly, her charms works best when the hostility is between me and her. When an argument happens, the girlfriend switches into therapy mode. She begins asking, empathizing, caring. Occasionally she gives a knowing smile and all negativity that were once present suddenly turn into something euphoric. Like dark chocolate- bitter at the start and sweet aftertaste. Like Durian XO- bitter to the point its delicious. And believe it or not, just when you thought your insanity would stop, the therapy just works the other way. You just become crazier about her. So the relationship just continues growing. Pretty much a win-win.
Dating a psychologist really isnt so bad. Just a little crazy.
